Traveling as a single man always sounds like a great idea.
“Yeah, I can do whatever I want! Go out, party, meet girls, get laid!” are common thoughts that go through every healthy males mind as he plans a trip…BUT.
There are always going to be hangups because the dating/sexual market evolves each year, and you have to be on your toes if you want to meet women–especially if you are like myself and despise online dating.
I recently returned from a quick jaunt to South Florida, and while I was there I came up with a quick and easy way to diffuse a common block to getting dates from the local females.
**When I say ‘date’, that usually means meeting a girl out at night and telling her and her friends, “I’m gonna take you on a date right now”, which I do quite often (and very successfully).**
This tip is especially helpful when you are visiting smaller cities or towns where the women tend to be more cautious and have tighter social circles that judge them harshly.
It is a given when you meet girls nowadays that one of the first questions they ask you is “where are you from?” If you are traveling through a smaller town and say something exotic, the immediate followup questions will be “what are you doing here?” and “how long are you here for?”
These are guaranteed to come up no matter what, so don’t think you can get out of it, especially if your preferred venues are laid-back lounges, restaurants, and the street (as mine are). You might not experience those questions at a loud dance club, but those are rare in smaller cities anyway.
In Florida I was honest with the first followup question and responded “I’m here to visit family, take a break from the winter, and get some work done.”
Those answers doesn’t matter so much, but the second followup question, “how long are you here for?” is a make-or-breaker that will determine whether or not you get the date.
What I found to be the most effective response to this question (don’t ask me how these pop into my head, they just do), was this:
I don’t know yet, I bought a one-way ticket and am waiting to see how it goes.
Now her mind starts weaving whatever sort of tale she wants to pin on you.
If you tell women that you are only in their town for a few days, or leaving tomorrow, or just passing through, they will know exactly what you are after and what kind of player you are.
The last thing you want is a new girl to know everything about you, that sucks all the mystery and fun out of the interaction, and gives her a perfect reason to dismiss you.
This is 100x more true if her friends are around to judge her. People get labeled a lot harder in smaller cities like the one I was in in Florida, and the last thing a girl wants is to be labeled as a slut who fooled around with a random vagabond looking for sex.
But if you respond with the above, it implies many things for her imagination to expound on:
- He must have money in order to afford an open-ended vacation
- I don’t meet many men with freedom, this could be fun
- My friends won’t mind if we hang out
- Maybe we’ll end up dating for a while
- What if he’s the one and he takes me back to New York to get married (lol)
This was a perfect way to create the exact image I wanted to project to the girls I was attracted to, and led to a relaxed conversation where they were curious and open.
“But Goldmund, you are lying to these poor girls.”
ha, the amount of canniness, game-playing, testing, and manipulation found in the modern woman should not be underestimated and you shouldn’t feel bad about employing tactics of your own.
I’ve mentioned many times before that a white lie like this is akin to a female putting on make-up, pushing her breasts up, wearing sexy clothes, and toying with you as a way to become more attractive.
Plus, like Christian McQueen mentioned in our last podcast about the Florida trip, who knows–you might die that night, your flight may get cancelled, or you might end up staying in the town for good–nothing is certain in this life.
Enjoy the tip, use it, and make your travels something you’ll never forget.
If you liked this tip, I’ve got tons more in my book Art of the One Night Stand, many of the stories take place while I was traveling to the far reaches of the globe and meeting girls along the way. Get that book here.
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