There was a lot of reflection done during our conversation and afterwards I thought about the major shifts different paths in life have taken me.
I am nothing like the highly religious boy and adolescent I was growing up. Nor am I the crazy rebellious, drug slinging, street racing, semi-professional skateboarder I was as a teen. I’m far removed from the spiritual wanderer I became in my early 20s. And I’m no longer the frustrated young man trying to find meaning outside of himself through a career and women.
Yet its easy to go back and relive all of those experiences, transformations, mistakes, and accomplishments.
They are my foundation, what shaped me, and formed my current self. Not only do they allow valuable self-knowledge, they allow for a deep understanding of others–I’ve been through many types of change and have experienced many different modes of thought. Many of which were unhealthy and I had to overcome.
Everyone has baggage from their formative years. Things that can leave sharp, painful chips on the shoulder that hold you back from becoming the best possible version of yourself.
Psychological hang-ups may cause you to project anger towards ideas and people that really have nothing to do with you. In the podcast we talk about the feminists who were protesting at the Porn Festival. Their mission is to end pornography completely. How stupid is that? How ridiculous is it to fight against an industry that pulls in more money than the NBA, NFL, and MLB combined?
If you are too dense to realize that there is absolutely no chance in hell you will have any effect on a massive part of modern culture, then there is something wrong. Some part of you that needs to be confronted, acknowledged, and resolved.
Same goes for guys who seem to be fighting an all out war against feminism. Yes, there are endless things wrong with the ideology, and yes, its easy to poke a million holes in their spiderweb philosophy. Understand that and move on to something bigger. Become a happier, healthier person who can genuinely help other people. That is the greatest gift you can give the world.
Getting over deep-seeded issues takes humility and hard work. By turning off your hubris and committing time for real self-reflection, which usually requires being alone for extended periods, you’ll be able to be honest with yourself, understand why you think a certain way, and improve in truly beneficial ways.
In order to come to a realization that a lot of my anger as a young man was geared towards my father, I had to be hypnotized.
It was a fascinating process that opened up parts of my psyche that my ego had been blocking.
But once the ego was removed, I allowed myself to open up, was really able to reflect on the issue, and found the answers were right there for the taking.
*Note: this was not a full hypnotism, I was still in control, but I did allow the psychiatrist to manipulate my REM (rapid eye movement) and put me in a semi-trance.
I spoke with Dom about using psychedelics for self-realization, not for fun. This too is a viable option for many people, before I get a ton of emails asking me if ayahuasca or peyote is right for you, let me say this.
Those plants are connected to the spirit. If you are curious about them, read up on them, speak to people who have used them, and do your homework…you will know if you are ready to try. They will call you. If you are not ready, you will also know, the pull will not be there. It may never come, that’s OK, those medicines are not meant for most people.
The answers people are looking for are not going to be found in a top 5 list or a how-to guide on the internet. Those are surface fixes. Band-aids put on a wound that requires surgery.
If you have a question, explore the real world and navigate using your own methods. Experiment, try, and do. Have conversations with older people who have done something in their life and radiate accomplishment, happiness, and positive energy.
And then reflect.
All the answers are inside you.
To listen to my guest appearance on Hangover Radio, go here.