A key to becoming a well-rounded person that people are drawn to is having a healthy amount of self-knowledge.
It can be developed in a number of different ways, and depending on how you learn best, the most efficient way to develop it can vary greatly between people.
My top two ways are reading and being alone in Nature.
Being out in the wild allows you to understand yourself quickly and efficiently. Everything comes together, your thoughts are clear, there are no distractions, ideas come easily, and your self-reliance becomes crucial.
Mother Nature is the best teacher and being surrounded by her will also build your inner peace. Majestic landscapes can make your spirit soar to new heights and observing animals in the wild will teach you how the world works.
*My go to conversation with model girls is animal stories.
I grew up playing outside most of the time. My goal as a teenager was to become a professional snowboarder, riding the biggest mountains in the world and constantly being surrounded by their god-like presence.
For over two years in my 20s, I was mostly transient, roaming around the country with my belongings packed in my Ford Escort Wagon.
I quickly learned how precious, incredible, and useful our National Parks are. Not only did they provide me with a source of income (a lot of the photos I sold were taken in the Parks), but they also provided me with a free place to stay (I was broke and never paid the camping fees). They are very special places for a number of different reasons.
First of all, there is no other system like it in the world. The parks belong to the people of the United States and are meant to be enjoyed by everyone.
The greatest landscapes, views, vistas, hiking, swimming, and places of pure natural beauty have been preserved so that the land will always be public and able to be visited by all who make the trek.
Thats pretty fucking cool.
And the Parks encourage you to go explore. Sure, at some points along the road there are going to be tourists, but it is so easy to pick a trail to hike on and be completely alone for long periods of time.
Rangers usually have great suggestions on where to find the best trails, I always ask them.
I remember purchasing a parks pass in 2005 and making my way from the East Coast to the West Coast and hitting up as many Parks as possible.
The first fully transcendent experience on that trip took place in Shenandoah Park.
After camping out in the middle of a field, I woke up before dawn and hiked in to the forest. It was a cool morning and very quiet. I followed a stream off the hiking path and climbed through the middle of it until I came to a pool that was being filled by a 30 foot waterfall.
The sun was just coming up and it turned the water into liquid gold. I stripped naked, jumped in the pool and swam under the waterfall.
At first, the cold water falling from so high felt like sharp pins piercing into my skin. I stepped out and felt a surge of energy rush through my entire body.
I picked a spot under the falls where I could sit comfortably on the stone ground and let the falling water slice into my body.
At first the pain was almost unbearable, but after concentrating enough, I was able to ignore the pain and feel the energy from the falls enter me.
I stayed like that for a few minutes and opened my eyes. During that time I was truly able to get outside of myself and become a part of the environment.
There was absolutely no separation between my body, the falls, the stone, the air, or the sunlight. It was all connected and all of the elements in the atmosphere were sharing each other.
This taught me that it was possible to use your mind to ignore serious and real pain, and after you do that, gain insight. This helped with some psychological issues that needed to be overcome.
And this was all without drugs, I swear. Just the pure, unadulterated beauty of a wild place.
I had a few more of these experiences during my travels, most of them took place inside a very secluded spot in a National Park.
The first time I saw wild wolves, my spirit animal since I came of age, I was in Grand Teton, I was as alert as I have ever been in my life. All my senses came alive–I could smell the animals even though they were 30 yards away. Every sound they made I could hear and watching them move showed me just how much strength and power was contained in their bodies.
That experience brought me back down to size and seeing those wild animals combined with being surrounded by the Grand Tetons allowed me to understand what specks of dust we are on this planet and how important it is to cherish every moment.
In Joshua Tree, I spent over a week completely alone. No people, no phone, no computer, nothing except my equipment and mind. It was there where my future unfolded in front of me and set me on my career path.
A peyote ceremony in White Sands was a glimpse into the never ending beauty of the Universe and an experience that allowed me to have confidence in myself–an ability that had been suppressed while I was a teenager.
This past December, I spent a few days hiking alone through Big Bend in Texas. The remoteness of the place truly makes it something special and while walking alone for miles and miles, my thoughts came together and goals for 2015 were pinned into my mind. The hike was extremely strenuous, dangerous at points, and filled with awe-inspiring, imposing views.
For a few days after that hike, my self-confidence was through the roof and meeting and seducing women came with remarkable ease. Interview girl was a lay-up.
There have been many more enriching experiences in countless parks around the country. These are places that are truly special to me.
It doesn’t have to be in a National Park to have those kinds of experiences, but the extreme wild beauty and ease of solitude makes them perfect places to gain self-knowledge.
And you can’t understand other people until you understand yourself.
Girls crave to be understood and its pretty easy to get a read on people once you have a handle on your own emotions and can see people for what they are.
Every day is a chance to increase your understanding. There are certain environments that make it easier to do so and I encourage you to seek them out. National Parks are some of my favorites but you can find special places anywhere. Open your mind and figure out what you are drawn to.
What I would highly, highly recommend getting is a National Parks Passport. I didn’t have one when I was living on the road and am kicking myself because of it.
I finally picked one up about five years ago and it has quickly become one of my most prized possessions.
Every National Park, Monument, Landmark, Historical Site has a place where you can get your passport stamped. Its a simple act, but extremely rewarding and satisfying.
I can look back at each stamp and the memories come flooding back of my time in the park.
The views, history, girls I fucked in the parks (2 RILF bangs…Ranger I’d Like to Fuck), experiences and joy all come back through those little stamps.
Every National Park sells them in their visitor centers and its best to get one at the first one you visit so that you don’t miss a stamp.
Its important for a man to enjoy the riches of Nature. Right now is the perfect time to reap the benefits of easy travel, big government, and freedom (if you know how to use it).
So go out and experience. Let the Earth fill your spirit with energy and forge you into something fierce.
And try and bag a RILF…believe me, its a rewarding and rare type of bang.
*For the next few weeks, I’m going to take a little break from posting. Only one or two per week rather than the usual three or four.
I leave for Los Angeles next week and am going to be working on some exciting things with Christian McQueen.
While out there I’ll be visiting Joshua Tree again and eating some mushrooms. No better place for a mushroom trip than the empty desert.
And I am figuring out how to publish books on my own, I have a couple that are ready to go but I want them to be released proper with paperback/hardcover editions available from the get-go.
I do have a lot of ideas for future videos/projects and I can promise some interesting content coming up in the near future.
Plus my ‘real’ job is quite busy this time of year and I’ve been occupied by that.
So hang on, check out some old posts, buy Go Forth, and when you are done with that, go out and create some of your own adventures.