The recent batch of emails from young guys has been both inspiring and thought-provoking.
Most of the questions have been about which tactics to use with girls, or which game books to read, or how long did it take me to have sex with over 100 women. This is not surprising and there is nothing wrong with asking–if you are a normal, healthy young man, you are going to want to know how to fuck as many beautiful females as possible.
I didn’t get exposed to formal ‘game’ or any of the pick-up stuff until my very late 20’s. Up until then, I didn’t do too bad. My only problem was approaching–getting past that first introduction–once girls got to know me, most of them became attracted.
You want to know why?
I’m not a very handsome man, although I’m not ugly–I have maxed out my appearance through strict diet control, exercise and style–but I have lived a life that most people never dream of.
There has never been a lot of money around but I managed to travel to over 20 countries and have been through 45 states in America.
I lived out of my car for almost two years: meeting people, writing articles, selling photos and pottery, camping in the desert, talking to old men in the south, getting drunk with hillbillies in the black hills, doing drugs with Indians in the desert, fucking girls at midnight under a full moon in some Pacific NorthWest hot springs, hunting armadillos, and spending a lot of time losing my ego.
Those things are just the tip of an iceberg of adventures.
Experiences make the man. You have the guys that live in their heads most of the time, spend a lot of their life staring at a computer screen, and nerdily deducting what their approach to bang ratio is. Nerds like this can bring you down. It’s great to read books–the good ones by men who have vision and a zest for life–but once you have a foundation, it’s more important to get out there to see and feel the world for yourself.
At least the nerdy kinds can think a little–then there are the dudes who take things to the extreme–think your pro-surfers, sky divers, jocks, thrill seekers, and whooooaaa dude, far-out types. Girls like these guys a lot but their heads are so far up their own asses that it would give them a migraine to come up with an original thought.
Fuck that. Become a balanced man, if you are reading this you probably are among the type who looks through screens to much. That means you need to go out there and start creating some adventures. Here is a list of things to start with right now:
- Walk through a forest (bring a camera)
- Hike to the highest point in your area
- Ride a bike somewhere new
- Explore graves at your local cemetery
- Pick up a hobby (hacky sacks are cheap, good exercise, and improve sex skills)
- Find an old man and get some wisdom out of him
- Eat some ethnic food
- Start writing for your local paper (describe what it’s like to be young in your town)
- Go birdwatching
- Go to a museum or art gallery
- Rent a canoe
- Go fishing
- Climb to the roof of a local department store and smoke a joint
- Go for a walk with no plan and improve your observational skills, write about what you saw
You get my drift. The world is endless and fascinating. Here is a quote by one of the most interesting men to live in the 20th century–Henry Miller:
The moment one gives close attention to anything, even a blade of grass, it becomes a mysterious, awesome, indescribably magnificent world in itself.
So young cats, instead of asking me what game books I read–ask what I did. Instead of reading some depressing blog about a guy who is obsessed with the pitfalls of feminism–go out and see something new.
Do something you have never done before. It will fill you with energy and give you something real to talk about. There is nothing more seductive to women than a guy who is passionate about life and can share his experiences and energy with others.
Girls want nothing more than to be passengers on an exciting adventure–be the person who can take them along on the roller coaster of life.