Going out solo was how I learned Game in the late 2000s.
Even before I had any strategy, most nights I went out, I was alone and was comfortable being by myself, even if I didn’t end up talking to anyone the entire time (I enjoy observing scenes…a lot).
I usually travel on my own and its easy to start conversations with people by saying right away “I’m not from around here, what do you recommend?”
But for the past year or so, its been extremely rare that I have gone out alone in my home town.
Last week, I went out a few times solo around New York and observed some massive changes that have taken place in the past few years.
First off–this point has been beaten into the ground many times over–you don’t see anyone by themselves anymore.
Social media has killed the solo night-goer. They used to be out there much more often, but definitely not in a busy lounge/club environment, and finding a sexy girl out alone is like finding cash in a dumpster.
**My favorite places to find girls alone (not during the day) is either eating at a high end restaurant bar or on the Subway**
So when I rolled around saying my usual “Hey, what’s going on tonight?” to start a conversation, I was met with “are you here alone?” right away.
My response at first was “Yeah, I like meeting new people” and then when the girls found out I lived in New York, they looked at me nasty and the conversation fizzled out.
This happened a few times and when I switched venues to a place that was seething with girls and had a great vibe, I knew it was time to get creative.
The next set of girls I stepped up to with a smirk and “Hey, whats up?” predictably asked if I was alone and I responded this time with:
Yeah, my friend just met a girl and took off with her, so now I’m on my own.
Immediately the vibe changed with the girls and they began asking where they met and we started gossiping like old friends.
It was easy to play along with because I’ve been in the situation plenty of times before where a guy I was with peeled off with a girl and I was left solo.
I wanted to try this out some more, and did so with similar results each time:
-The girls faces lit up immediately.
-They wanted to know more.
-Interest was high and sexual.
I was feeling good with my new found power and excused myself from the set I was talking to with “I’m going to explore on my own for a little bit” and then went up to the bar to intercept a beautiful brunette who was walking up for a drink.
I said Hi, we started chatting and then the question came up…this one asked “who are you here with?”
Well, I’m alone, my friend just met a girl and took off with her.
She responded with “that was rude of him”.
No, I’m happy for him. They were getting on really well. We had already had dinner together anyway and were all caught up.
Smiles all around, we chatted about times our friends had gone home with other people, and when she said that she needed to go back to her friend, I told her to find me in a few minutes.
On her way to the bathroom she passed me, said “stay right there” and on her way back she grabbed me by the arm with “lets go, you’re coming with us” and led me over to her blonde friend who was by far the sexiest girl in the entire place.
The brunette was telling the blonde about my ‘friend’ who had left to go hook up with someone, and when the Uber came, we all got in the back, their legs draped over mine, and they proceeded to describe in detail how they were both cheating on their boyfriends.
I was privy to text messages they were sending to the cuckolded guys, the girls were roommates and used each other as alibi’s when they needed to throw their boyfriends off the trail of cheating.
I just laughed at everything and knew it was just ‘don’t fuck it up’ game from there on out, and at the end of the night, the brunette came home with me to get fucked silly and give me a blowjob in the morning before going to meet her friends for brunch.
The rest of the weekend, I was feeling great and continued to use the line
I’m alone now, my friend just met a girl and took off with her.
with great success.
There are a number of connotations loaded into the phrase.
-It implies that you are available.
This is key while out at night. If the girls take a fancy to you, they can feel free to invite you anywhere they want and have their way with you.
The girls described above even said to me “this is going to be an adventure, you don’t know what is going to happen” as we were waiting for the Uber.
I knew exactly what was going to happen–the less work for me the better.
-It opens them up to talk about sex.
Right away sex is on their minds and you can go into a story about how you’ve seen fast hook-ups, one night stands, describe attraction…use a variation of one of my favorite phrases in the world, “I’m trying to figure out why I’m so attracted to you”, and so on.
The sooner you can get them thinking/talking about sex, the better.
**The girls in the above example were so damn comfortable with me that they shamelessly bragged about cheating on their boyfriends within minutes of meeting me…bingo**
-Lets them know that you hang out with cool people.
Guys who get laid hang out with other guys who get laid. This is a Law of Nature.
-Sex is a part of life and is natural.
By not making a big deal out of it, and dropping it in casual conversation demonstrates you realize that two people who are attracted and getting along might as well hook up. It gets her thinking and excited about the prospect.
-Stirs up natural female jealousy.
Females get jealous, its a feature you should use to your advantage. By implying that your cool friend already found a worthy girl for the night will get the girl you are talking to thinking about why she hasn’t had anyone sweep her off her feet yet.
You are happy that your friend met someone and not jealous of him at all. And you still have the gall to stay out alone and have a good time regardless.
Some girls responded by saying “wow, I would have been so pissed if that happened to me”.
I’m sure this could be analyzed up and down all day long, but the simple fact is that it works.
And I don’t feel bad one bit by dropping a white lie when it comes to appearing more attractive to women I’m meeting for the first time.
They get to wear push-up bras, make-up, and perfume to overstimulate my senses, so I’ll say whatever words are necessary in the beginning to tantalize their testy little brains.
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