There is a major trait that separates men from the boys, something that the guys who “get it” have, and the guys who don’t, don’t. It’s a quality that takes years of experience to develop, accomplishments and failures, a deep knowledge of the self, and a lot of time reflecting.
This is something that took me 10+ years in the making. It’s something that I developed while spending months alone, living out of my car, camping in the desert, and not seeing another person for weeks.
It’s something that formed while I read 1000’s of books, most of them classics, written by men with great minds and a capacity for clear thought.
Something that became visceral when I took part in ancient ceremonies: the first being a ritual with aborigines in the Australian rainforest that involved smoking of herbs and a retelling of the creation of the Universe using the constellations, the second being a peyote ceremony in New Mexico that was overseered by a Native American spiritual leader, and the third took place in the Amazon rainforest in Peru, where a shaman conducted an ayahuasca ceremony that opened a path deep into my mind.
It also came through hard work: growing up poor and doing hard labor as a teenager, making my way through an American Ivy League University–the first person in my family to earn a college degree, as I tried to make a living through my art–living out of a car and peddling, as I learned game and slept with 100’s of women, as I entered the professional world for five years and became head of a department, and finally finding a niche and becoming expert enough to make money in it and have time to travel.
The women see this, they can sniff it out like a bloodhound, the girls have talents in this arena. I can notice it in their eyes, and even more so in the females who are true beauties–they are the ones who can detect true confidence the best.
And the most wonderful thing now is that I am the chooser, the one who decides whether or not a girl is worth my time and attention. It’s a great feeling to have that power, it’s the natural state, the way things are supposed to be.
But, as I said, this took years of development. I’m not surprised that the majority of men in the West do not have a knowledge of themselves. They grow up being told what to do, being told what path to take and being told what a normal life is supposed to be. When do they have time to think for themselves? Do they even have the ability?
Most of the guys who write me are young, asking questions, and looking for advice. There is only so much I can give and a lot of it will not apply because each man has his differences and needs to go inside himself to find the real answers.
Do this, make it your mission to find yourself, find your path, and go that way.