Anyone who has gone out to meet girls with me in the past six months has seen my most common and effective opener in action.
Its something that always gets attention, is a great way to determine interest levels, screens out ones who wouldn’t be worth the time, and shows you if the girl is going to be fun or not.
The wave and come-hither.
First of all, you need to be projecting some seriously positive body language and energy. Without it girls are probably going to think you are being weird.
That goes for every interaction with women, be comfortable, be positive, and share good energy to make meeting women 100 times easier.
I like to use the come-hither when out with other guys and we have reached a particularly high point in the evening, have been having plenty of laughs, and have created an air of fun around us that other people want to be a part of.
I have usually scoped out the place and know where the girls I want to talk to are standing.
After a big laugh, or shared story with the guys, i’ll look over, pretend to notice her for the first time, make eye contact…act a little surprised (obvious shock at how good she looks) and wave. If she laughs, waves back, puts her hands up and has the look on her face that says “are you waving at me?” then its time to do the old come hither motion or wave and get her to walk over.
No matter the reaction, she could even scowl at me (plenty have), I’ll motion her to come over. When she refuses, I’ll shake my head and look at her like she is missing out. Because she is. No matter what, I don’t let a rejection phase me, especially if I haven’t said a word.
I find that girls who are in groups of three or more are very willing to come over when motioned. They love being the target of attention in front of their girlfriends and feel special to be picked out.
Girls in pairs are much harder because they don’t want to leave their friend, but a lot of the time they will motion for me to come on over and join. That’s all good and I usually stride over with exaggerated swagger to make them both smile.
I’ve noticed that girls who willingly come over are by far the most receptive to lighting fast physical escalation and sex that night.
There is something so primal, so open, and so honest about spotting a girl and immediately calling her over to you. Its like animals in the wild.
I mention this fact when speaking to the girl. A lot of the time I’ll say “now isn’t this better than online dating” and get a hearty laugh, full acknowledgment, and a moment of clarity that bonds us together.
Girls go out and want to have fun. Unless you live in a place where the culture severely restricts interaction with strangers (I’m lookin’ at you Toronto), then you can expect that a group of girls who are out on the town want nothing more than to be called over by a fun-loving guy and shown a good time.
So try it out players: build the confidence strong enough to make this work, head out at night with the intention to have a good time, and show those girls what fun it is to interact between the sexes.
I’ll use this opportunity to plug my coaching service again. The guys I’ve been coaching and taking out have all expressed their appreciation and mentioned that they felt an immediate boost in confidence from watching my nonchalant approach style, interactions with women, and humor when it comes to rejection.
And the guys have been doing awesome in their own approaches, number/kiss closing, and keeping the conversations light and fun.
My last client was for a full weekend session, both night and day/camera game and I saw a huge improvement from Friday–Sunday. I’m now offering longer sessions for guys who want to go out, have a good time, and learn how to become fearless when it comes to meeting women.
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