3 Books that will Help you be more Persuasive, Dynamic, and Influential

A few weeks ago I had to deliver a speech that summed up a project I have been working on for the past three months (involving snapping turtles, bobcats, and wetlands, very important).

Beforehand, I revisited three books that had helped me communicate effectively in the past–my future work with bobcats depended on how well I pitched my ideas, as well as the amount of funding I would receive–so I needed to prepare as best as possible.

These books have also aided my game immensely and opened up ways to connect with people on deep levels.

It was a pleasure to go through them again and reinforce ideas that influence human behavior and decision making.

Then I Tweeted a picture of the books and discovered that a lot of others respond to the trifecta:

Twitter, ha

Twitter, ha

I’d highly suggest reading all three, taking notes, and applying the lessons you learn as soon as you can. Practice is easy since you can do it with anyone you come in contact with.

Introducing NLP

What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming?

Its a means of revealing your personal excellence, discovering your genius, and performing actions in an elegant and effective manner–if you can apply NLP correctly, it acts as a high octane boost to self-improvement.

To summarize, I’ll use a quote from the book:

If NLP were ever to be presented in a three minute seminar, it would go something like this. The presenter would walk on and say, “Ladies and gentlemen, to be successful in life you need only remember three things.

“Firstly, know what you want; have a clear idea of your outcome in any situation.

“Secondly, be alert and keep your senses open so that you notice what you are getting.

“Thirdly, have the flexibility to keep changing what you do until you get what you want”.

Outcome

Acuity

Flexibility

End of seminar.

NLP describes the way different individuals experience the world–understanding the unique patterns of thought that make each person ‘tick’.

This book works best if you have a natural curiosity with human behavior and are interested in really getting to know others.

Its highly useful in the seduction process, but can be applied to any type of relationship you have–from a business partner to your Mother.

I can definitely see someone taking NLP too seriously and coming across like a weirdo, analyzing every eye movement, verb, and noun that comes out of someones mouth, but if you have some talent and use NLP in a balanced manner, it is a lot like mind reading.

*The seduction phrase I describe in detail in Words that can Form an Immediate Connection with Girls employs some NLP techniques.*

Get the book here.

Talk Like TED

To tell you the truth, I can’t stand TED talks. They are mostly trite, filled with fluff, and value style over substance.

Mental masturbation.

But there is no denying that people get motivated by the speakers for those few minutes they are on stage and a lot of feel-good chemicals are released during the spiel.

TED presenters are the Pick-Up Artists of public speaking.

And this book does a great job of identifying the main tricks that are used to spellbind an audience.

Talk like TED details nine invaluable tips that you can apply anytime you have to persuade an audience–even if you just have an audience of one.

Unleash the Master Within

Showcasing your passion is key to inspiring others and persuading them to act on your words.

Master the Art of Storytelling

My favorite section since I’ve learned most truths about human behavior and desire through storytelling. Stories are the best way to reach the hearts and minds of others.

Have a Conversation

Know your material so well that its like speaking to an old friend. I deliberately write blog posts like this in a conversational tone because its effective, or at least I think it is.

Teach me Something New 

People are bored–TV sucks, blogs are bland, and most art is cheap imitation. If you present your ideas in a novel way and help others see the world in a new light, people will listen.

Deliver Jaw-Dropping Moments 

Easier said than done, but if you can make your audience react emotionally, you have them hooked.

Lighten Up

Thats right motherfuckers. Take your shit seriously when you are alone and growing, but loosen up with others so they become more receptive. No one likes pretension.

Stick to the 18-Minute Rule

Another tip that is easily applicable to seduction. Keep it moving, fast-paced, and engaging. Creativity thrives under constraints.

Paint a Mental Picture with Multisensory Experiences

Most people, especially in this age of screens, need to be stimulated with more than just words in order to remain alert. Stand out by using just the right amount of media to enhance your message.

Stay in Your Lane

Be authentic, don’t try and be something you’re not, and stick to what you know. Everyone hates a phony.

Talk like TED is an easy read and the advice can be applied immediately.

Get it here.

Vital Lies, Simple Truths

The world we live in is rough. Filled with all sorts of evil, danger, and injustice–its not a good, nor is it a fair place.

It can be daunting to search for the truth and confront painful realities, but if you want to remain wide awake in a culture that is willingly asleep, you have to recognize your own blind spots.

Vital Lies, Simple Truths is a great starting point that goes deep into the psychology of self-deception, states the reasons why we do it, and gives suggestions on how to deal with our own deceit in a way that doesn’t involve self-destruction.

Changing facts into something easier to handle is a vital lie–such as a family horrors, warcrimes, abuse, and even your own shortcomings. The danger in creating these lies is that they prevent the creator from reaching their potential.

There are reasons fat, complaining, losers will remain just the way they are–they keep themselves trapped by their own lies.

Vital lies are also the theme of the brilliant novel Catch-22, which is another book I highly recommend reading for serious insight into the nature of humans and the madness of war.

The first step to become ‘woke’ to simple truths is to notice just how it is you are asleep. Truths are necessary to confront if you want to live to the fullest extent possible and get the most out of your short time on Earth.

Vital Lies, Simple Truths is a good place to begin searching.

Buy here.

If you want to become more influential on others in all aspects in life, I encourage you again to read the above books.

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About Goldmund

Goldmund grew up a wild-child and was constantly being disciplined. Using ancient rituals and game, he broke free from the shackles of his mind and the norms of this backwards society. He frequents bars in Brooklyn, mountains in Mexico, and retreats to the desert. His passions are nature and women.

6 comments on “3 Books that will Help you be more Persuasive, Dynamic, and Influential

  1. Please don’t turn into Roosh or CH where everyday is another post complaining about [current event].

    If Democrat or Republican wins then there’s still going to be a shy girl in the corner of the room at a house party where all the guys are too gay / scared to approach her.

    You’re making a difference by helping out men who were led astray and are rewarding the quality women by giving their future suitors good long term advice.

    For me roosh and CH offer no benefits anymore and I stopped checking them but you’re still fighting the good fight (men should be men and women should be women).

    • You don’t have to worry about me.

      I grew up in a religion/cult that taught us the truth about media, government, and major religions. Nothing was to be trusted and lies make the world go round.

      Tack on majoring in psychology/philosophy while in college and all this complaining about world events is old hat to me–freshman league.

      The only redpill truth I needed to learn was about sexual dynamics–no church or University teaches that correctly.

      I’ll continue to write about what I find interesting and what I think will help young men out. Its good to know whats going on around you, but fruitless to obsess about it.

      Life is too short to waste focusing on problems out of your control, just focus on improving yourself and helping others when you can.

  2. I never got into NLP because it seemed so hocus pocus but if you’re recommending it then I’ll definitely check it out.

    I’m curious, did you begin to study human behavior as part of your journey in learning game?

    • When I was younger my goal was to be a Naturalist and I studied animal behavior for a long, long time–mostly as a hobby and working with local conservation groups. That provided a really good foundation in social dynamics.

      My first major at University was psychology and I really got deep into Freud and Jung, to the point of obsession.

      Never applied those principles to meeting girls though–my studies never crossed that threshold.

      So when I started to learn game, I picked it up fast because the psychology and science behind everything was already in place, I just needed it laid out and explained in terms of what females were attracted to and why.

      That intro book to NLP is really good and only describes the fundamentals, which I think is all you need, then you can take what you learned and adapt it to your style.

      • I think one of the biggest fallacies of humans is we forget we are animals and like all animals we possess behaviors that are very predictable.

        I will definitely get onto these books soon. I just got The Artist’s Way and Cannery Row on the back of your recommendation.

        • True, girls especially hate to admit this…its why most of them hate it when we break down game into specific strategy. The preys biggest fear is having weaknesses exposed.

          I’m jealous of anyone who gets to read Cannery Row for the first time, its truly something special.

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