A few weeks ago I had to deliver a speech that summed up a project I have been working on for the past three months (involving snapping turtles, bobcats, and wetlands, very important).
Beforehand, I revisited three books that had helped me communicate effectively in the past–my future work with bobcats depended on how well I pitched my ideas, as well as the amount of funding I would receive–so I needed to prepare as best as possible.
These books have also aided my game immensely and opened up ways to connect with people on deep levels.
It was a pleasure to go through them again and reinforce ideas that influence human behavior and decision making.
Then I Tweeted a picture of the books and discovered that a lot of others respond to the trifecta:
I’d highly suggest reading all three, taking notes, and applying the lessons you learn as soon as you can. Practice is easy since you can do it with anyone you come in contact with.
What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming?
Its a means of revealing your personal excellence, discovering your genius, and performing actions in an elegant and effective manner–if you can apply NLP correctly, it acts as a high octane boost to self-improvement.
To summarize, I’ll use a quote from the book:
If NLP were ever to be presented in a three minute seminar, it would go something like this. The presenter would walk on and say, “Ladies and gentlemen, to be successful in life you need only remember three things.
“Firstly, know what you want; have a clear idea of your outcome in any situation.
“Secondly, be alert and keep your senses open so that you notice what you are getting.
“Thirdly, have the flexibility to keep changing what you do until you get what you want”.
End of seminar.
NLP describes the way different individuals experience the world–understanding the unique patterns of thought that make each person ‘tick’.
This book works best if you have a natural curiosity with human behavior and are interested in really getting to know others.
Its highly useful in the seduction process, but can be applied to any type of relationship you have–from a business partner to your Mother.
I can definitely see someone taking NLP too seriously and coming across like a weirdo, analyzing every eye movement, verb, and noun that comes out of someones mouth, but if you have some talent and use NLP in a balanced manner, it is a lot like mind reading.
*The seduction phrase I describe in detail in Words that can Form an Immediate Connection with Girls employs some NLP techniques.*
Get the book here.
To tell you the truth, I can’t stand TED talks. They are mostly trite, filled with fluff, and value style over substance.
But there is no denying that people get motivated by the speakers for those few minutes they are on stage and a lot of feel-good chemicals are released during the spiel.
TED presenters are the Pick-Up Artists of public speaking.
And this book does a great job of identifying the main tricks that are used to spellbind an audience.
Talk like TED details nine invaluable tips that you can apply anytime you have to persuade an audience–even if you just have an audience of one.
Unleash the Master Within
Showcasing your passion is key to inspiring others and persuading them to act on your words.
Master the Art of Storytelling
My favorite section since I’ve learned most truths about human behavior and desire through storytelling. Stories are the best way to reach the hearts and minds of others.
Have a Conversation
Know your material so well that its like speaking to an old friend. I deliberately write blog posts like this in a conversational tone because its effective, or at least I think it is.
Teach me Something New
People are bored–TV sucks, blogs are bland, and most art is cheap imitation. If you present your ideas in a novel way and help others see the world in a new light, people will listen.
Deliver Jaw-Dropping Moments
Easier said than done, but if you can make your audience react emotionally, you have them hooked.
Thats right motherfuckers. Take your shit seriously when you are alone and growing, but loosen up with others so they become more receptive. No one likes pretension.
Stick to the 18-Minute Rule
Another tip that is easily applicable to seduction. Keep it moving, fast-paced, and engaging. Creativity thrives under constraints.
Paint a Mental Picture with Multisensory Experiences
Most people, especially in this age of screens, need to be stimulated with more than just words in order to remain alert. Stand out by using just the right amount of media to enhance your message.
Stay in Your Lane
Be authentic, don’t try and be something you’re not, and stick to what you know. Everyone hates a phony.
Talk like TED is an easy read and the advice can be applied immediately.
Get it here.
The world we live in is rough. Filled with all sorts of evil, danger, and injustice–its not a good, nor is it a fair place.
It can be daunting to search for the truth and confront painful realities, but if you want to remain wide awake in a culture that is willingly asleep, you have to recognize your own blind spots.
Vital Lies, Simple Truths is a great starting point that goes deep into the psychology of self-deception, states the reasons why we do it, and gives suggestions on how to deal with our own deceit in a way that doesn’t involve self-destruction.
Changing facts into something easier to handle is a vital lie–such as a family horrors, warcrimes, abuse, and even your own shortcomings. The danger in creating these lies is that they prevent the creator from reaching their potential.
There are reasons fat, complaining, losers will remain just the way they are–they keep themselves trapped by their own lies.
Vital lies are also the theme of the brilliant novel Catch-22, which is another book I highly recommend reading for serious insight into the nature of humans and the madness of war.
The first step to become ‘woke’ to simple truths is to notice just how it is you are asleep. Truths are necessary to confront if you want to live to the fullest extent possible and get the most out of your short time on Earth.
Vital Lies, Simple Truths is a good place to begin searching.
If you want to become more influential on others in all aspects in life, I encourage you again to read the above books.
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